In-person therapy in La Quinta & online throughout California.
Therapy for ‘what happens between us.’
Couples and Family therapy for people who love each other deeply but keep getting caught in the same patterns.
Less blame. More understanding. A different way forward.
Somehow, you keep ending up here.
It starts with something small. A comment. A look. A tone that lands the wrong way.
One of you gets louder. The other gets quieter. One pushes for an answer while the other is already halfway out of the conversation.
And suddenly, you're having that argument again.
But the argument is rarely just about the argument.
Underneath the frustration, defensiveness, or silence, something else is happening. Someone feels dismissed. Someone feels like they can't get it right. Both of you are trying to protect something, and neither of you feels particularly understood.
Here's where I do things a little differently.
I'm not interested in deciding who's right, handing you a communication worksheet, or teaching you how to have a more polite version of the same fight.
I want to know what keeps pulling you back into it.
The moment your body goes on alert. The story you tell yourself about what your partner meant. The reaction that makes perfect sense to you but lands very differently on the other side.
That's the work. Learning to recognize the pattern while it's happening, understand what fuels it, and create enough room to respond differently.
Because the pattern is the problem. Not either of you.
Private-pay therapy | La Quinta & online throughout California
Haven is an out-of-network practice. I don't bill insurance directly, but superbills are available for possible reimbursement. View Fees & Insurance.
Different relationships. Same human stuff.
Sometimes it's the person you chose. Sometimes it's the family you came from. Sometimes it's the family you're trying to build.
Whatever the relationship, the work begins with understanding what keeps happening between you.
Haven Wellness Therapy is a private-pay practice. I’m out of network with all insurance plans. View Fees & Insurance
Couples
For the same fight in different clothing.
You love each other. You're just tired of ending up in the same argument, having the same misunderstandings, or feeling miles apart while sitting right next to each other.
Let's figure out what keeps happening between you, and how to stop getting pulled back into it.
Couples Intensives
When an hour a week isn't cutting it.
Couples intensives offer dedicated time to slow things down, understand what's been keeping you stuck, and do deeper work without watching the clock every time the conversation gets somewhere important.
Families
Because families don't come with instruction manuals.
Parenting, changing roles, old wounds, new expectations. Family life has a way of bringing all of it to the surface.
We look at what's happening between family members, why everyone keeps falling into familiar roles, and how to create more understanding without asking anyone to disappear in the process.
Your body usually knows before you do.
In our work together, we don't just talk about what happened after the argument. We pay attention to what happens during it. The shift in your body. The story you start telling yourself. The familiar move you make to protect yourself, even when it pushes connection further away.
Because understanding the pattern is one thing. Learning how to interrupt it while it's happening? That's where things begin to change.
Not perfectly. Just differently.
Hi, I’m Sophie
I'm less interested in deciding who's right and more interested in understanding what happens between you.
For more than 15 years, I've worked with individuals, couples, and families navigating the complicated, messy, deeply human parts of relationships.
And here's what you should know about working with me: I won't just sit back and nod.
I'm engaged. I'm curious. I'll ask the questions that get us past the surface-level argument. I'll notice when the conversation starts going somewhere familiar, and I'll help you understand what's happening before you're right back in the same fight.
My work brings together attachment, family systems, and body-aware therapy. Not because you need more therapy jargon, but because sometimes understanding why you react a certain way isn't enough to help you do something different.
I'm not here to pick sides or teach you how to win an argument.
I'm here to help you change what keeps happening between you.
Let's see if we're a good fit.
Want to know more about me? Read my story →
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist | Coachella Valley & Online Across California
Not sure what keeps happening between you?
Different argument. Same familiar pattern.
Ever wonder why you keep ending up in the same fight, even when you promised yourselves this time would be different?
Take the 3-minute Relationship Patterns Quiz to start identifying the patterns you fall into, what might be happening beneath the surface, and why changing the conversation can feel so difficult.
Ready to see what happens next?
Starting therapy doesn't need to be another thing to overthink.
You don't have to know exactly what's wrong, how to explain it, or even where to begin. That's what our first conversation is for.
Private-pay practice · Out-of-network with insurance · View fees & insurance
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We'll start with a complimentary 15-minute consultation. Tell me a little about what's bringing you here, ask your questions, and get a feel for how I work.
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If we decide to work together, I'll walk you through scheduling, fees, and the intake process. You'll receive everything you need through my secure client portal.
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You don't need the perfect words or a neatly packaged problem. And if you're coming in as a couple, you don't even have to agree on what's wrong. We'll start with what's actually happening between you.
In La Quinta or Online Across California
Different spaces. Same thoughtful, engaged work.
Whether we're sitting across from each other in my La Quinta office or meeting through a screen, we're paying attention to the same things: the patterns you keep getting pulled into, what's happening beneath the reaction, and how to begin doing something different.
I offer in-person therapy in La Quinta and secure online therapy throughout California. Couples can attend virtually together or from separate locations when needed.
Haven Wellness Therapy
78115 Calle Estrado, Suite 201
La Quinta, CA 92253
Serving La Quinta, Palm Desert, Rancho Mirage, Indian Wells, Indio, Palm Springs, and surrounding Coachella Valley communities.
Frequently Asked Questions
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I work with individuals, couples, and families who are tired of getting caught in the same patterns.
Maybe it's the argument that keeps resurfacing, the distance that's grown between you, or the family dynamics you swore you'd never repeat.
My work focuses on relationships, communication, parenting, anxiety, and major life transitions. We look beyond what's happening on the surface to understand why it keeps happening and what you can begin doing differently.
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Yes. I offer in-person therapy at my La Quinta office, serving Palm Desert and the surrounding Coachella Valley, as well as secure online therapy throughout California.
Couples can attend virtual sessions together or from separate locations when appropriate.
Different settings. Same engaged, relational approach.
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Absolutely. I work with LGBTQIA+ individuals, couples, and families, including those navigating relationships, parenting, fertility, family-building, and complicated family dynamics.
Your relationship and family deserve to be understood on their own terms, not measured against someone else's idea of what they're supposed to look like.
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Haven Wellness Therapy is a private-pay practice, and I am out of network with all insurance plans. I do not bill insurance directly.
If your plan includes out-of-network mental health benefits, I can provide a superbill that you may submit for possible reimbursement. Reimbursement depends on your individual plan and is not guaranteed.
You can review my session rates and payment information on the Fees & Insurance page before scheduling a consultation.
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That's exactly what the complimentary 15-minute consultation is for.
I'll be upfront about how I work. I'm not a therapist who just sits back, nods, and asks how that makes you feel. I'm engaged, curious, and willing to help you look at the patterns that are keeping you stuck.
You don't need to have everything figured out before reaching out. We'll talk about what's bringing you in, what you're hoping might change, and whether working together makes sense.
Wondering if we're a good fit?
Wondering if we're a good fit?
You don't need another person telling you to communicate better. You've probably tried that.
What you might need is someone who can help you understand why the same patterns keep showing up, even when you're trying so hard to do things differently.
That's where I come in.
If something you've read here feels familiar, let's talk. We'll start with a complimentary 15-minute consultation to see whether working together makes sense.