Serving the Coachella Valley & Online throughout California.
Specialized Therapy for High-Functioning Perfectionist Moms.
You’re the glue holding it all together, but who’s holding you?
Trade the “perfect” facade for nervous system regulation.
You’re doing too much and it’s costing you everything.
From the outside, you’re the one holding the house together. But inside? You’re just… running on fumes. You’re over-functioning not because you want to, but because you’ve learned that if you stop, everything might tilt.
It shows up in the quiet moments. It’s the Midnight Loop, that heavy, restless replaying of the day’s "missed" expectations when you finally have a second to yourself. It’s the Invisible Load that keeps your own needs permanently at the bottom of the pile. It’s Performance Parenting, that gnawing, quiet fear that if you ever stop "doing," people will finally realize you’re just a human, not a superhero.
You aren't failing. You’ve just spent years using perfectionism as a survival strategy to keep the world safe. But you’re starting to realize: the control isn't keeping you safe anymore. It’s just keeping you stuck.
If you’re ready to put the performance down, I’m here.
Moving from Doing to Being
You’ve spent years trying to think your way out of anxiety. You read the parenting books, you track your moods, and you try to be more mindful, but when the stress spikes, your nervous system still pulls the same alarm.
That’s because your perfectionism isn't a personality flaw; it’s a biological survival state.
This is where our work together begins. We don't just talk about the why of your stress; we look at the how of your body.
Through Integrative Body Psychotherapy (IBP) and nervous system regulation, we help your body learn that it is safe to put the armor down. We aren't trying to fix you or teach you to be perfect at being calm. We’re simply learning how to notice when your system is racing, how to hold space for the exhaustion you've been carrying, and how to gently guide you back to center. It’s not about doing more. It’s about feeling enough, just as you are.
Hi, I’m Sophie
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist | Coachella Valley & Online Across California
I work with high-functioning perfectionist moms in the Coachella Valley, and online throughout California, so you can begin from wherever you are.
I’ve spent my career as an LMFT learning the science of how we heal. But if I’m being honest? My most important qualification isn’t my degree, it’s the deep, lived-in understanding of what it costs to be the one who carries it all.
I see the "high-functioning" facade every day because I know exactly how much work it takes to maintain it. I know the specific exhaustion that comes from being the glue, the planner, and the keeper of everyone else’s peace. I’m not here to give you another to-do list to make you a "better" mom. I’m here to help you get back to the version of yourself that exists beneath the armor, the one that doesn't need to perform to be worthy of rest.
We’ll use somatic work and nervous system regulation to help your body feel like a home again, not a battlefield.
I’d be honored to walk this part of the path with you.
Let’s see if we are a good fit.
Read more about my background.
Therapy Services at Haven Wellness in Palm Desert and Across California.
Therapy for Anxiety, Postpartum Depression, and Parenting.
You don’t need to know exactly which category you fit into; we’ll figure that out together. Book a free consultation.
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Adoption & Donor Conception Therapy
Support for individuals and parents navigating adoption or donor conception, including identity questions, grief, attachment concerns, and the emotional complexity of building a family in non-linear ways.
Choosing adoption or donor conception can hold many truths at once: hope, relief, uncertainty, love, and loss. Questions about belonging, disclosure, genetics, and attachment may surface before a child arrives or long into parenting.
Therapy offers a supportive space to slow down, process these layers, and work with the nervous system responses that often accompany family building shaped by loss, choice, or complexity. Together, we focus on building clarity, emotional steadiness, and intentional ways of showing up for yourself and your family.
You don’t have to carry this complexity alone. Support can help you move forward with more grounding, honesty, and care.
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Parenting & Family Therapy
Support for parents navigating anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and reactivity, especially when it feels like you’re holding everything together but still living on edge.
Parenting can amplify old stress patterns, especially when you’re caring for children with big emotions, sensitive nervous systems, or complex needs. Over time, survival-mode responses can start shaping how you react, communicate, and connect at home.
Therapy offers a supportive, non-judgmental space to work with anxiety regulation, emotional patterns, and family dynamics so your nervous system and your household can feel steadier, not just managed.
You don’t have to parent in survival mode. Support can help you respond with more clarity, connection, and intention.
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Pregnancy & Postpartum Therapy
Support for anxiety, depression, sleep disruption, identity shifts, and the emotional intensity that can come with pregnancy and early parenthood.
This season can bring constant worry, intrusive thoughts, irritability, emotional numbness, or a sense of being “on” all the time — even when things look fine on the outside. For some parents, anxiety won’t settle. For others, there’s a heaviness or disconnection they didn’t expect.
In therapy, we focus on calming the nervous system, making sense of emotional patterns, and easing the mental load that can make this season feel overwhelming. The goal isn’t to fix you — it’s to help you feel steadier, more present, and more like yourself again.
You don’t have to move through pregnancy or postpartum in survival mode. Support can help you build steadier rhythms for yourself and the family you’re growing.
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Fertility & Loss Support
Support for anxiety, grief, and emotional overwhelm during IVF, infertility, and pregnancy loss.
Trying to grow your family can feel like living in constant limbo; hoping, waiting, bracing, repeating. Some days feel manageable. Other days feel heavy, anxious, and exhausting to carry.
Whether you’re navigating fertility treatment, infertility, miscarriage, or pregnancy loss, therapy offers a steadier place to land. A space to slow down, regulate your nervous system, and process what this season is asking of you, without pressure to stay hopeful or move on before you’re ready.
You don’t have to hold all the uncertainty and grief by yourself. Support can help you feel more grounded as you move through this.
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Couples & Relationship Therapy
For couples navigating disconnection, conflict, or emotional distance during pregnancy, postpartum, or parenting transitions.
Becoming parents stretches even the strongest relationships. Suddenly, everything shifts: your communication, your intimacy, your time, your sense of partnership.
If you’re feeling disconnected, stuck in conflict, or trying to rebuild closeness after a hard or anxious season, therapy offers a space to slow down and reconnect. Together, we’ll strengthen communication, reduce reactivity, and help you respond to each other with more safety and understanding.
You deserve a relationship that feels like a safe place to land, even in the messy moments.
How Therapy Works at Haven Wellness
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A simple, steady process, so you always know what to expect.
Getting started doesn’t have to feel complicated or overwhelming. Here’s what it looks like:
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We’ll briefly connect to talk about what’s bringing you here, what you’re hoping for, and whether working together feels like a good fit. This is a low-pressure space to ask questions and get a feel for how I work.
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If we decide to move forward, you’ll receive access to a secure client portal where you can complete intake forms and handle scheduling and payment, at your own pace, before your first session.
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Our work starts by slowing things down. We’ll focus on what your nervous system has been carrying, what patterns may be showing up, and what support looks like for you, not a one-size-fits-all plan.
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Therapy isn’t static. As your needs shift, our work adjusts. We’ll continue building awareness, regulation, and steadier ways of responding, with room for real life, not perfection.
In-Person Therapy in Coachella Valley & Online Across California
Support that meets you where you are… literally.
Whether you’re local to Palm Desert or logging in from your kitchen floor between feedings, after a long workday, or during a season of transition, therapy at Haven Wellness is designed to fit into real life, not compete with it.
Online therapy across California
No commuting. No childcare scramble. No rushing in and out.
Just steady support from wherever you can catch a quiet moment.
In-person sessions in Palm Desert
If face-to-face connection feels important to you, I offer weekly in-person sessions at:
One El Paseo Plaza
74-225 Hwy 111, Suite C
Palm Desert, CA 92260
It’s a calm, grounding space for parents, parents-to-be, couples, and adults navigating stress, relationship changes, family building, and major life transitions.
Serving clients in Palm Desert, Palm Springs, La Quinta, Indio, Rancho Mirage, and the entire Coachella Valley, with online therapy available anywhere in California.
Reflections from colleagues who share this work of supporting parents through life’s tender seasons.
Frequently Asked Questions
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I am an out-of-network provider and do not accept insurance directly. Many clients choose to use their out-of-network benefits, and I’m happy to provide a superbill you can submit to your insurance company for possible reimbursement.
If you have questions about cost or coverage, we can talk through that during the free consultation.
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Yes. I offer secure online therapy to clients anywhere in California.
Online sessions allow for flexibility and consistency, especially during busy or transitional seasons. Many people find it helpful to receive support from a familiar, comfortable space
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I work with individuals and couples.
This includes parents, parents-to-be, couples navigating relationship transitions, and adults carrying long-term stress, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm. We’ll talk together about what kind of support feels most helpful for you.
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Yes. I work with LGBTQIA+ individuals, couples, and families, including those navigating family building, parenting, adoption, donor conception, and relationship transitions.
My work is affirming, inclusive, and grounded in respect for each family’s lived experience.Absolutely. Haven Wellness is fully affirming. I work often with queer parents, donor-conceived families, and two-mom or two-dad family systems, offering support that honors your identity and lived experience.
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In some cases, yes, especially during pregnancy or early postpartum.
We can talk together about what feels supportive and practical, and make a plan that prioritizes both your needs and the therapeutic space.
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Yes. While my primary focus is supporting parents and parents-to-be, I do offer therapy for young children as well as parent-child support to help you understand and respond to your child’s emotional needs and behaviors.
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That depends on your goals, needs, and the season you’re in.
Some people come for short-term support around a specific transition. Others choose longer-term therapy to work through patterns shaped by chronic stress or survival mode. We’ll check in regularly and adjust as needed, there’s no fixed timeline.